Work all day, chase kids’ activities at night, take care of the house on the weekend and do it all over again the next week. Where is the time for me? Light bulb moment: you have to MAKE the time, or it won’t happen. You have to actually schedule it as an appointment on your calendar. It’s a choice. It doesn’t just happen.
A couple of years ago, I read a story about a nurse who cared for dying patients and recorded their top 5 regrets in life. Number 4 on the list really resonated with me: “I wish
I had stayed in touch with my friends.” This hit me like a ton of bricks because in the midst of my everyday life, I let go of some really close friends. The rat race of work and the merry-go-round of kid activities and poof – years had gone by. I imagined myself in the future, no friends, no job (I’ll be retired) and lonely. I felt like Scrooge getting a glimpse into the dark and lonely future. No! I will not let this happen to me. I reached out to a dear friend who I hadn’t spoken to in nearly 15 years. AND, I keep my close friends close.
Close friends lift you up. We need friendships to feel fulfilled and they need to be nurtured like a garden (starting to sound like a hippie – sorry!). But it’s true. Caring for friendships takes effort, but well worth it.
Here’s the list and full article from Huffington Post:
- I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
- I wish I didn’t work so hard.
- I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
- I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
- I wish that I had let myself be happier.
Here’s a video with the Top 5 Regrets of the Dying (along with sappy music). Enjoy and learn from their gift of hindsight.