The start of a new year is the perfect time to make some positive changes. But it’s not as easy as it sounds, is it? We want to lose weight, get a new job, or work less. Why don’t we just do it? Because doing something different takes more than just the desire for it to happen. There is a missing link between the desire for the change and making it happen. NFL Quarterback, Alex Smith gave an inspiring speech on change. He explains that if you don’t like where you are or what you are doing, then you need to do something different. Blogger Denise Scarbro lays out the four components to change in order to be successful. I love these four simple points because so often people want to change but they just don’t know how and get overwhelmed. Also, there is a magical synergy between them. Let’s look at each one and then the magic of the combination.
1. What is your goal? Lose weight, make more money, be happier, take a vacation, purchase a home, change jobs, etc. The goal can be large or small but figuring out what you want is first.
2. Get inspired. Ok this one is not super obvious -it takes some introspection. Close your eyes and imagine you realized your goal. What is the feeling you have from attaining your goal? How would it FEEL to have shed that 20 pounds or saved enough money for your dream vacation? Focus on THAT feeling and remember it. Revisit that feeling often-especially when you start to slip off your target. This is the push you will use to get out of bed and into the gym.
3. Face your fear. Change requires doing something different and that can be scary. Remind yourself that a failure is a learning tool. Fall down? That’s ok, just try again.
4. Back into your goals. Sometimes starting at the beginning is too overwhelming and we get paralyzed. Backing into it is easier than creating lists on a blank slate. Scarbro uses a flow chart method where she puts her goal at the top and then creates boxes underneath – what is required to make this change – each item goes in a box. The next row of boxes are what is required for each and so on, until you reach the bottom and now you have your first steps on the road to change. This is where you start.
Now for that magical place where CHANGE HAPPENS. The combination of desire, inspiration (use it as a visualization tool), getting comfy with failure (see my blogpost on Becoming Friends with Fear), and structuring a path, all filter down to making change happen. The combination of these components is the good stuff. Have you recently made a change in your life? How and why did you do something different.