He wasn’t the first to say this, but John Lennon wrote these lyrics about his son in “Beautiful Boy” on the album, “Double Fantasy”. It made me think about how life can seem to pass us by. We all say, “Where does the time go”? And that’s exactly what happens unless we consciously make an effort to notice the present, not just be in the present, but to consciously notice it.
Every day we get out of bed, go to work, rush home to escort the kids to their activities, run to the store, cook dinner, watch TV and collapse in bed. And then we do it all over again. If we’re not careful, 10, 20 or 30 years can fly by and we’ve hardly noticed. We’ve been on auto-pilot. How is your life different than it was 20 years ago? Do you have more money? Hopefully that’s not the only difference.
Writer, Declan O’Flaherty outlines how to change our lives for the better by first changing ourselves. In the blog post, Does Life Just Happen to You?, he suggests an exercise to become more conscious of monitoring your thoughts.
For 30 days you must make a conscious effort to challenge your negative thoughts to create a stronger sense of control over your future.
- Every time you notice a negative thought, replace it with a more positive perspective.
- Whenever you notice that you are doubting yourself, do the same as above and replace with an opposite and positive thought.
- A couple of times each day, stop what you are doing and notice how you are feeling; then ask yourself what you were thinking. What you are thinking affects how you’re feeling.
- Don’t criticize anybody for any reason, either in person or in your head. This is one of the biggest energy-destroying, negative thought processes a person can have; and almost everybody does it on a day to day basis.
- Make a conscious effort every day to praise somebody for even the simplest of things. Just a simple comment to somebody can create their day. Depending on the comment, it can also destroy their day. Words are powerful, and they can change lives.
I’m in the process of trying to experience life, not on auto-pilot. I’ll keep passing along these great tips as I find them. Our thoughts have power. Henry Ford said, “If you think you can, or you can’t, you’re right”. The choice is yours.