Living life in the “middle” gets a bad rap. It’s boring and dull right? “There’s got to be something better than in the middle” go the lyrics of the song, One Headlight by the Wallflowers. But I’m finding that one of the keys to happiness is (and striving to find) life in the middle. The great philosopher, Aristotle recommended finding the happy medium between two extremes. For example, don’t eat too much or too little, don’t exercise too much as to cause injury, but not enough will leave you out of shape. And too much fun at a party spells a hangover, but having no fun makes you a Debbie Downer. We hear a lot about Work Life Balance – not working too much or too little, but just the right amount. Even the really tough stuff like balancing courage versus being cowardly is a step toward living a happy, fulfilling life.
This also applies to negative self talk like, “I’m not smart enough, or tough enough, or pretty enough, etc. On the other extreme, over confidence can bite you as well. I found an interesting blog by Dina Glouberman. She developed an exercise to balance the negative talk. She recommends visualizing two mountains representing the opposite extremes. On one mountain you are nothing and the other you are amazing. Acknowledge both extremes and then walk the path in the middle. Having recognized both positions, you can move on.
Life is NOW, not the presentation a month from now, the surgery you are scheduled for, or the vacation you have planned. How are you feeling about these future events? Take a breath and visualize both extremes and then walk through the middle. Facing fear, making a change, doing something DIFFERENT is an exercise in walking the middle. It’s there, you might just find the happy medium.